This week, in commemoration of WRAP Week we have a stellar lineup of guests that will be joining us for the Honest Answers Podcast. It is both mine and their way of helping to bring light and attention to how pornography affects individuals and relationships. I had hoped to kick us off this week with a little bit about myself and how pornography has affected me, but instead we’ll give priority to the guests. I will get my own story up as soon as possible.
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To begin, we take a look at the general problem of pornography in our society. We do so by jumping straight into the battle at the very heart of nation’s long term well being with Patrick Trueman, founder of PornHarms.com. Pat has been fighting to get current obscenity laws prosecuted and has some great ideas to help the average citizen clean up or keep their community safe from the harms of porn.
Next, it is our pleasure to have Angus Nelson, author of the new book “Love’s Compass: When We’ve Lost Our Way” join us. Angus is a lively speaker and focuses on emotional and relational needs of men. He has been involved with ministry & counseling for almost 20 years. His experience is raw and real – “hamburger meat” is sure to come up in this interview.
Bishop Ed shares some time with us as well. He has been a bishop (volunteer, lay leadership) twice in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and shares with us his gentle and profound insights into how pornography limits the full and most beautiful expression of our sexuality. He tells it how it is and uses analogies to help people understand these often unapproachable topics.
Dr. Jill Manning joins us next to help us look into what the research shows about pornography and perhaps more importantly, what it does NOT show. Dr. Manning is a licensed marital & family therapist who has been engaged in therapeutic work since 1998. She has written chapters in many books about pornography & addiction and has shared her expertise on television programs and news interviews. She is the author of the recent CD & DVD “Let’s Talk About the Elephant in the Room: How LDS Women Can Protect Families from Pornography” and has a calm and sensitive way of addressing these important issues regardless of religious background.
Jonathan Daugherty of Be Broken Ministries is a national sex addiction recovery minister who himself struggled for a time with pornography, lust & sex. He shares the dangers of lust and of keeping secrets.
Then Wendy Maltz, coauthor of The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography and internationally recognized certified sex therapist, educator & lecturer will also be sharing some time with us.
Tommy Corman of Love in Action International will give us some insights gained as the executive director of a residential sexual treatment center.
Followed by Tony Litster, a motivating speaker who can detail well the cultural constructs that are leading large numbers within Christians and other communities to turn to porn in large numbers.
We will wrap up this week with author and recovered addict Michael Leahy who has the opened eyes of thousands on hundreds of campuses across America to what pornography is really all about. Michael is the founder of the BraveHearts, a non-profit organization reaching millions through education & awareness programs. He is the author of Porn Nation: Conquering America’s #1 Addiction.
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- The Social Cost of Pornography: Experts psychiatry, psychology, neurophysiology, philosophy, sociology, law, and political theory examine the real nature of pornography in its moral and social consequences.
- Porn Harms: This site is dedicated to providing the most accurate peer-reviewed research on the harm from pornography, along with relevant news and opinion.
- Press Release from Media Matters: Obscenity is not protected by Free Speech Amendment
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Act
- Pray & consider some way to share with others the importance of this work
- If you yourself struggle with pornography, get help. See a religious leader, talk with loved ones, go to a counselor and learn about addiction.
- “What’s that Purple Building, Daddy?” documentary of how ordinary citizens protected their community from the selling of pleasure.
- Check out what the host of the White Ribbon Against Pornography, Morality in Media suggests to get involved in fighting porn in your community.
My 12-year marriage has been destroyed, stabbed and forever marr ed by my husband’s use of porn. He keeps insisting that it’s not an addiction. I hope ‘WRAP’ can help both him and me find truth and forgiveness. ALSO, I want to do more to help. How can I join at a “higher level” so I have a solid ground to go around businesses in my town and surrounding area, bringing pamphlets and some kind of information on laws and inforcements to the businesses that display porn on their walls? My husband recently visited a welding garage to have some custom frames done and he was greated by a giant poster of a naked woman on the wall, right there where even kids could have seen it had they gone with him that day. I am ENRAGED, because this caused him to lust, and go find magazines and eventually the sin took control over my hubby’s mind and he started going online for the single purpose of masturbating to porn while I slept un-aware in our bed. I FEEL LIKE TROWING UP. Please help me help other families avoid this.
Lynn,
Your story, I wish I could say, is not that common, but it is! I am sorry to hear of the pain it is causing. You have my prayers and love.
Two resources that I felt to share with you:
1. To help YOU heal:
Out in the Light
2. To help you learn to fight back:
Morality in Media
And about your husband… addiction is a nasty term, but if he sacrifices trust, love, family responsibility, connecting…call it what you will, he would be much happier if he got help. It’s not shameful to seek help. We all need it.
I to am facing losing my husband of twenty one years to the powerful addiction to porn. I believe now that he has been addicted since he was a little boy. When we first got married I felt that certain times he was having an affair. And each time I felt that way I would start snooping around. Always, always, I would find hidden porn. The sad thing about my memory of these years with him, he always blamed me for not trusting him. We finally seperated two years ago. It was very hard for me. It appeared not to affect him.On fathers day 2008 I went to his apt.. He seemed irritable. I proceeded to look around. When I went into his bedroom,he threw me on the bed and put his hands around my neck.This is a man who has never ever laid a hand on me.I told him I new he had porn. That night I went home and got on line and typed in. Why men look at porn. And there it was porn addiction. I have found so much literature on porn addiction. I have talked to him and shared what I have studied, Only to tell me, he wouldn’t need it if I was nicer to him.He has my children believing I am crazy. My oldest daughter has talked with me about this , but my other three children won’t even read anything I have printed on this addiction. I am hurt and lost, afraid. I have know one to talk to personally about this. I am an angry person. The pain I have felt for so many years now has an explanation, but I search and search for relief from my pain.I know I have to forgive. I am having a hard time. All these years my husband blaming me,telling me how crazy I am, my children looking at me like I am jealous of porn. It goes so much deeper then jealousy. I have books am I reading, I don’t know if there are even groups around here that address porn addiction, I can’t afford counseling. I feel like I am going to explode. Any suggestions for what to do would be greatly appreciated.