Have you or someone you know become “addicted” to sex? Do you find your compulsion so overpowering that it seems insatiable at times? Well you’re not alone. There are many others who struggle just like you. But be aware that many now enjoy happy lives free from this frustration and there’s hope for you too!
Many reasons could lead to the compulsion to engage in sex or sexual behavior. Abuse ranks among the top reasons. If this is the case in your situation, know that it’s not your fault and that you can obtain a happy and emotionally burden free life. Discuss the proper course of action with a clergyman and/or a professional counselor. They can help you release any unnecessary guilt or shame you may be feeling about your abuse.
Now, if your behavior has moved into you acting out with others, while part of that would have come from your past experiences, you’re going to find it helpful to resolve those issues and feelings so that you don’t continue the cycle of hurt and pain that leads to risky sexual behavior. You can obtain this freedom. Compulsive sexual behavior can be understood and curbed. Again, turning to others for help will most likely be a tough, but necessary step.
Most likely along the way you’ve learned some falsehoods about yourself, about proper and meaningful relationship and about the role of sex in a loving and committed relationship like marriage, so deciding to dedicate yourself to education will be an essential step in gaining mastery over your compulsive urges to have sex. Even within a marriage where sex can have proper context and meaning, compulsivity can lead to damaging the other necessary components of the relationship, like mutual respect, consideration and positive communication.
If you’d like to learn how addictions to sex work in the brain and how to think correctly about sexuality, sign up at the right for a free mini-course. Note: This course addresses pornography & masturbation as well as “sex & love addicts“. If you experience sexual compulsivity it is highly recommended that you seek individual professional help in addiction to signing up for this course.
