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Addiction to Masturbation

January 4th, 2010

Addictions are powerful and so often can breath into us feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, fear and despair. This can definitely be the case with an addiction to masturbation. While some in the world say that it is a positive, wonderful and healthy thing, one can tell, if he or she listens deep down, that the kind of selfishness that accompanies masturbation is not noble or virtuous, especially when it’s in the form of an addiction. By very definition, an addiction seeks to be satisfied at the expense of almost any other thing. This so often can include attention to family, spending time in good causes or in self-improvement.

I’m assuming you’ve found your way here, not to find evidence to prove that masturbation is healthy and good, but rather because you have found it to be a frustrating and fruitless endeavor despite the immediate gratification that can be obtained through self-stimulation.

If this is the case, here are a few thoughts to help you stand above the degradation of selfish self-indulgence of this sort.

1. Know you have an infinite worth and a tremendous value outside of any action. Many come to feel worthless because of their involvement with masturbation. This is not true and only serves to perpetuate an addiction to it.

2. Know you have a choice. While it may feel like you can do nothing about it when that powerful urge rushes over you, that’s not true. You can! Every time you give in it becomes easier, every time you choose instead to channel your energy into a more productive and creative endeavor, that too becomes easier.

3. Know that you’re not alone. Opening up to others helps you realize this. It also opens the doors to healing because the clamp of secrecy no longer presses so hard down upon you.

There is hope if you’re seeking escape from an addiction to masturbation. Don’t give up! In fact, take a step right now to learn more about how the brain can trap you into this behavior by filling out the form to the right. You may also purchase a course that addresses sexual addicts, porn addiction, etc.

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Sexual Addicts

January 4th, 2010

Addiction is a well understood phenomenon and these days with our growing capacity to look inside the human genetic structure and brain, that knowledge is ever increasing. Sexual addiction is sometimes not seen as a real addiction and occasionally it’s called a compulsion rather that an addiction, but sexual “addicts” know that despite their efforts to curb their undesirable behaviors, they’re trapped.

Sexuality is at the very core of our identity. It’s part of our very nature and like other addictions, addiction to sex or other sexual behavior can cause immense suffering, frustration and even very real danger.

While addictions to sex and sexual behavior exists it’s often very helpful for the one struggling to not classify themselves as “addicts,” but rather as capable and competent people who have become addicted. You will always he a being of light and great worth. You won’t always have an addiction, so learn now not to label yourself as an addict. It’s a struggle, not who you are. You can change. There is hope. Grab hold of it!

Now because there are all kinds of sexual behavior that one can engage in and subsequently find oneself trapped, it is not my intention to get into each one, but rather to touch on some of the beliefs that are common to them all.

Beliefs are our perception, views, attitudes and they color the way we see the world. Along the way those with a sexual addiction have come to adapt false and harmful beliefs. A good recovery program will help one sort out these and allow for adoption of healthy ones. Here are a few of the beliefs that can hinder healing:

1. “I’m all alone.” No, you’re not. There are people who understand what you’re going through and people that are eager to help.

2. “I’m not addicted.” Whether this is true or not ask yourself the questions, “am I happy? Am I getting the most out my life?” You may see your behavior in a very new light when evaluated in the context of your life goals.

3. “I‘m not hurting anyone.” As humans we need others. If you’re behavior is solitary you are building a wall between you and a real connection with other others. If your behavior is with others then you are jeopardizing your potential for a full and powerful relationship that one who builds unevenly upon sexual relations cannot ever achieve.

If you have thought any of these things please take a moment to fill your name and email in the form to the right for a free mini-course on understanding your sexual addiction and how to escape the misconception of being a sexual addict.

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