Destination Freedom » scriptures http://www.freedomfrompornaddiction.com Hope is Real Thu, 08 Dec 2011 00:20:54 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 How to Increase Your Good Desires http://www.freedomfrompornaddiction.com/how-to-increase-your-good-desires.htm http://www.freedomfrompornaddiction.com/how-to-increase-your-good-desires.htm#comments Fri, 16 Sep 2011 23:49:30 +0000 Joseph http://www.freedomfrompornaddiction.com/?p=1210 There’s a story that I’ve heard in multiple therapy sessions and groups where a Native American grandfather is talking to his grandson. He tells him of two wolves that exist within each of us, a white one and a black one. The white one is the good desires we have and the black one is the negative and selfish desires we have. They are battling, he said inside of each one of us. Naturally the boy wishes to know the outcome and asks the sage, “which one wins grandfather?”

I’m not sure why I never connected the moral of this story to what I just learned this week about how to increase my good and wholesome desires, including my desire for healing and recovery. I have been learning over the past month just how important desires are and how they are at the beginning of everything we do. “If that’s the case,” I thought, “how do we get ‘em?!”

With that clear question in my head and a desire to know the answer I guess I shouldn’t have been surprised when I rad across the answer to my question in a book entitled Drawing on the Powers of Heaven by Grant Von Harrison. He said that our desires come as a direct result of our thoughts and attitudes.

“Wow! Really?” I was amazed. I knew that I could choose to think about good things, it has been happening quite naturally each morning for the last 2 weeks as I’ve woken up, thought of 10 or more things I’m grateful for and then dove into my scriptures with the goal of finding what my God wishes me to know about Honesty.

Something clicked when I read that. I saw that the things I have been counseled to do for years are actually powerful tools I already possess to mold and shape my desires. I am glad to now understand the moral to the native american tale. I now ”get” the grandfather’s reply to the boy’s curious question, ”which wolf wins?”

“The one you feed.”

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Today for the first time in a while I gave attention to the time I was going to wake up. I did so with the help of my girlfriend. We decided that we wanted to read scriptures together before she started getting ready for the day. I woke up at 5 to do my own study so we could read at 6. Great start to my day! And I was then ready to take the day head on.

I’ve have tendencies towards having unfocused and unmotivated days, but just this last weekend I put together a schedule and posted it this morning. This has helped me to know where I am going during any given time period throughout the day. It really is like the Cheshire Cat said in Alice in Wonderland, “If you don’t know where you’re going then it doesn’t matter what road you take.” My schedule and waking up early to start the successes rolling first thing has given me some great energy!

There is so much energy and power in accomplishing goals when it comes to breaking the strength of a sexual addiction. Sitting around being lost in space only gives my mind ample time to wander onto sexual thoughts. And if I’m tired, bored or lonely it only makes those thoughts all the more enticing to invite in.

I’m grateful for the power of action. We’re all so much more capable than we think. We simply need to define our goal and act in small ways daily until we arrive there. I’ll talk about goal setting tomorrow. It was also on my mind today.

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