Posts Tagged ‘freedom’

How can I get started on the path to REAL freedom from porn addiction?

September 11th, 2010

Jon’s been in low places. There were times when his self worth was so low he had absolutely no hope that he’d ever escape from the clutches of pornography. His solution began with God. Faith in anything else can’t work. We each have a “God hole” within us that can only be filled by him. It’s when this hole is filled that the many solutions commonly available instantly start to come alive, they have meaning and power to create in our external worlds a mirror of our new changed inner world. If you have tried so many things and are continutally frustrated, take some quiet time to invite God into your heart as you listen to Jon’s message in this episode of the Honest Answers Podcast.

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What does REAL freedom from porn look like and how does a person get there?

September 11th, 2010

This question was chosen by Jon, but it mirrors the purpose behind our creation the second video explaining the Destination Freedom Map: Where Are You Going? When you don’t know where you want to go, what a victory or a success looks like, it’s much much harder to come by. Many wander aimlessly looking for happiness, kept from it, just because they don’t know what they are looking for. I came out of this conversation with Jon Snyder with a powerful vision as to what I can hope for as I continue on my journey to freedom from porn addiction. Jon explains how many programs preach “sin maintenance” or rather how to keep away from certain actions like looking at porn or masturbating. It wasn’t until I heard Jon’s freedom looked like that I realized how right on it is to expect a complete healing, but not in behavior modification (will have to change the subtitle of my Destination Freedom recovery map). Don’t miss this episode of the Honest Answers Podcast, I mean it! You NEED to know this and you NEED to know it now. It seriously changed me.

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Sexual Addiction Recovery

January 12th, 2010

Recovery from any addiction is a liberating process. As one reaches past the point they thought they could an onto a life of sobriety one day at a time it’s like a caterpillar breaking free of its cocoon and coming forth not as the same old caterpillar, but now as a beautiful butterfly with wings to fly. Such is the vision for anyone in sexual addiction recovery.

Were it possible for one chained to compulsivity to addictive behavior to see what they could be free from the addiction they would be much more ready and able to walk forth into the light of freedom. In fact, it IS possible! And, it’s essential.

Many times in the course of trying to change people make the grave mistake of narrowly focusing on the problem rather than the solution. Have you ever tried to drive straight on the freeway while looking in your rear-view mirror or over either shoulder? No, well let me assure you that looking straight ahead is the only direction that will keep you heading towards your destination in the safest fashion.

To establish a vision of what a vision of what life would be like with out your sexual addiction it’s often helpful to start with an honest evaluation of where you are at present. Distasteful through it may be, knowing the truth puts you in a place to know what you need to do to get you to where you want to go.

Next, picture in your mind what you want your life to be like. What’s it look like when you face your urges and are in control rather than letting them control you what’s your relationship with God look like? With yourself? With your family and friends?

This vision is a fluid thing that’s going to evolve over time as you think of new and beautiful ways to live your life. Take some time each day to picture this good and light picture of you. As you imagine it give it life with tastes, touch, smells, color, etc. Make it vivid! You can also use this vision when faced with urges. It will help you keep the big picture. Also pay attention during your daily visioning sessions you’ll be prompted to do certain things. Take note of them and act upon them. Over time you’ll cultivate an inner voice that hears the divine as you grow into the vision you’ve brought into your life.

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Sex & Love Addicts

January 8th, 2010

In his powerfully profound book Human Intimacy Victor Brown describes the tendency many have to confuse love an intimacy with sex. While sex is a component of the most sacred and purest intimacy that can be enjoyed by husband and wide, it is definitely not synonymous with love or intimacy.

“Sex addict” is a term used to describe those who have come to find they cannot resist or live without sex. Because there is often a void they are seeking to fill, a loving relationship, the term “love addict” also is used at times. While I disagree with calling people addicts, I do know first had the power of addiction.

When a person becomes trapped by their sexuality, a prison like no other is formed. When someone is addicted to heroin they can go somewhere where there is none and detox. Sexual addictions can be one of the hardest to break because we carry with us at all times the “drug of choice.” All one needs is a moment to fantasize and the chemicals are released into the brain. And when others are involved with the “addict” it becomes a trap that deadens and destroys relationships.

“Bridle your passions that you may be filled with love,” is a wise statement on so many levels. Imagine your passion and drive for sex to be a horse. Which scenario delivers the freedom you desire – A bucking bronco with the rope tied at his groin or the tamed and broken stallion with the rope attached to a harness, giving you direction and control of his movements?

Are you or someone you know addicted to sex? You’re not alone. Wherever you find people you’ll find others trying to exploit those base desires. But you always have a choice and can overcome if you you’ve found yourself addicted to sex or love. There IS hope! Many others have found themselves addicted and have also found their way out. You can too!

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My Freedom Journey

September 12th, 2009

Journaling is a powerful tool through which I acknowledge divine power at work. It has the power to maintain my momentum, sharpen my focus & keep me motivated. Truth often speaks so softly that we need moments of reflection to capture it before we can incorporate it.

I’ve decided to keep a fairly regular (as close to daily as I can) log of my journey from sexual addiction to freedom. I want it to be clear to myself and to anyone who ever asks, “how did you do it?!” that it was my Savior that reached into my life in small and simple ways to work great and marvelous changes in my life.

After continued evaluation and re-evaluation I’ve come up with 4 areas that really energize & motivate me. When I journal I will be asking myself the following questions as I daily strive for personal freedom from addiction.

My Journey of Freedom’s Focus Questions:

How did I see the Lord’s power to change in my life today while I…

1. …thoughtfully gave of myself to my brothers and sisters?
2. …gratefully remembered his mercy and grace?
3. …was learning about my addiction?
4. …courageously chose the right?

In this journal I hope to shed light on the truths of pornography use, to instill hope in those that are caught in the darkness of addiction, to inspire action and to help facilitate the success that will come to all those who wish it.