Posts Tagged ‘feelings’

Addicted to Masturbation

December 26th, 2009

Are you addicted to masturbation? Do you find yourself unable to stop despite continued efforts and countless broken promises and ongoing frustration with your perceived inability to control your behavior? Well here are ten questions to ask yourself to get to the bottom of your masturbation addiction.

1.Why do you masturbate?

2.Why do you wish to stop masturbating? Is it because someone close to you thinks it is disgusting or inappropriate? Is it because it interferes with your goals and plans? Is it because you feel deep inside that you’re not living to your fullest?

3.When did you begin masturbating? Perhaps you were taught while you were young. Perhaps when you were a teenager.

4.How often do you masturbate? The more frequently you masturbate the greater the chance of addiction.

5.When do you masturbate? Is there a time of day, like when you wake up or go to bed, that you choose to do it? Attention to this shines the light of awareness into the darkness of despair.

6.What feelings immediately precede your choice to masturbate? This may be a hard one (no pun intended). Often times the addiction gone unchecked leads the one addicted to form a routine. The routine is entered into often not even realizing that one is going into it. Identifying how you feel just before can help you know when you’re most vulnerable.

7.Do you view pornography while you masturbate? While they don’t always go hard in hand viewing pornography adds volumes of images later available for recall in fantasy. Porn doesn’t help an addiction.

8.Do you masturbate despite sexual relations with a spouse? If so, perhaps examining the state of the relationship would help. How open are you with each other? How much do you connect emotionally? Etc.

9.What are your beliefs about masturbation? That it’s okay? Healthy? Harmful? A sin? A moral weakness?? Your beliefs all largely play a part in your addiction. You’ll want to evaluate your Beliefs and look down deep to determine how correct they are.

10.What would life look like without being addicted to masturbation? Many forget that our thoughts determine our actions & without regularly seeing a pictures of freedom from addiction one cannot expect to ever escape.

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Pornography has Real Consequences

November 17th, 2009

I picked up a book several weeks ago that I should have left alone, but it gave a definition of pornography that I found particularly cavalier and destructive. The definition was something to the effect that porn was anything that people wanted to suppress and hide about the human body. The attitude was one of discrediting anyone that thought nudity and sexuality shouldn’t be openly embraced. The message was clearly one justifying such a stance.

Over time I’ve learned that many have been fooled into believing that there’s no such thing as right and wrong. It’s interesting how these words can call like sirens. They flatter the unaware listener and say there’s no devil, that there’s no God and that man is free to do what he wants without consequence.

Well, how unattractive would the Hollywood blockbuster be that actually showed the long-term consequences of an all night kegger or the loss of ability of one to connect really with others as they squander their efforts with one-night stands?

Despite the effort of many to disassociate natural consequences from action we will one day have to account for our actions. Facing the music shouldn’t be our sole motivation for seeking out and living according to truth, but it’s a reminder ever now and then to not heed the smooth lies that abound all around us.

Truth: There are natural outcomes to all actions, thoughts, attitudes and feelings. The closer I look the better I can see what leads to what. I will be patient with myself as I watch and pray always that I am not led into temptation.

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