Breaking Porn Addiction One Step at a Time

May 21st, 2012 by Leave a reply »
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One step at a time is good walking. – Chinese Proverb

one step at a time is good walking chinese proverb Breaking Porn Addiction One Step at a TimeBreaking a porn addiction has been difficult for me. I have a tendency to want right now the thrill and satisfaction that comes only from spending all day hiking up a foreboding mountain and then looking down on how far I’ve come. It’s like someone once said, you expect the warmth of the fire before gathering the wood.

Well, I’ve been blessed recently to have several reminders that one step at a time is the best way to overcome a sexual or any other addiction.

To start with, my girlfriend (oh yeah, I have a girlfriend now. icon smile Breaking Porn Addiction One Step at a Time ) has been talking with some who are looking to lose weight as she has (70 lbs). They get so excited to see changes and she is for sure a beautiful example of what they desire in their own lives. It’s much like me when I go to a symphony or piano concert. I get all jazzed and think, “I want that!”

However, they, like me, tend to get hyped by the outcome, the destination and forget that there’s gonna be a journey. And not just ANY journey, but a crazy hard one!Sometimes I am mezmerized so much by the possibilities that I don’t spend any time in the present, the only place I can do anythging about it.

So, she has told them, and me for that matter, to succeed at just one simple thing. Succeed with something small and you can maintain that energy with which you began. It doesn’t matter if it’s a running a marathon, quitting smoking, a porn addiction or poor eating, if you chunk down the task into small steps and take one at a time, you you have a much higher success rate.

Another reminder came from an oft spoken mantra in our Sexaholics Anonymous group last night. “Progress, not perfection,” as the saying goes reminded me that I don’t have to work on getting to the top of the mountain, just on taking the steps right before me to get there. Sure there’s planning to do and adjusting along the way, but by and large I’ve gotten off track simply by taking my eye off the ball so to speak.

Harriet Cabelly on TinyBuddha.com broke down achieving goals into 10 small steps. One really important one that I’d like to add to this discussion is her step number 2: “Acknowledge and revel in your accomplishments, however small. Feel the pride and joy of the win.” THIS is part of the power of taking small steps. Checking off 15 tiny things from your list does much more for me than lumping them all together as one task and making it into my own insurmountable mountain.

So, that’s it. Today I am going to chuck things down into smaller steps and take one at a time. As another Chinese proverb says, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. So take one with me today and let’s stay free from porn addiction and engage fully in all the beauty that life has to offer!!

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